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Because I've been arguing with my mother over whether I have borderline or not, I had my therapist take me through all the diagnostic criteria and give me her professional opinion on whether I qualified, with me then offering examples where I thought I did and she didn't. I scored 2, you need 5.

But, like, she said my tattoo habit doesn't count as impulsive, destructive behaviour because I don't see it that way in my life, whereas I feel that probably the majority of people would consider getting ink every few months was impulsive and destructive so it would count.

She said the fact that one of the two I *did* score on, self harm, doesn't even fit the borderline pattern because I've never, ever done it while living with my child, which was a promise I made myself and have stuck to through some very bad times. She said a bpd person couldn't do that.

Ehhh, I don't know. I think I indulge in a lot of guilt and shame around having it as a diagnosis, which isn't healthy, but the fact that some people think I *do* have it seems like it should count as the deciding factor, because if I behaved that way to them it means I'm capable of it.